My Wednesday night

So I was out with 2 friends (I won't say who). And they were talking about how certain "C & C" aged people at our church dress. They believed that the clothes they were wearing were too revealing. One friend wanted to talk to the pastor about how other girls have been dressing. She said "there must be something in the Bible against that." She also was talking about how women make men sin with how they dress. The other friend then went on to say she agrees with Islamic cultures and their restrictions on how women dress. She even said "I don't think a woman should wear a tank top unless it is in front of her husband."

I stood there mute and didn't say anything. You see I hear stuff like that and don't say anything. But after my time with them ended I was at my house fuming. About how these supposed good Christians were just about concentrating about the surface which as good Christians we are supposed to look beyond that and into what is inside. About my mom leaving the church as a teenager because the people at her church were telling her about how to dress. But mostly I thought about how there is such great passages in the Bible, wonderful loving passages like Acts 17:28: "For in [God] we live, move and have our being." and 1 John 4:16: "God is love and those who live in love, live in God." Yet people seem to forget these passages and go to other passages which talk about other things like those verses in Corinthians and Leviticus. What is it about religion and Christianity that people decide "Let's go after certain people for how they dress." ?

Really the conversation that night was one that made me ask "what kind of church do I belong too?", "Do I really want to hang out with these people anymore?" No we as Christians (christ-followers) should concentrate on the inside. These girls want to go after other girls for dressing "t00 revealing." Frankly I envy girls who dress in revealing clothes. As a fatso I long to be little and lean and wear a cute tank top and go jogging in a sports bra. (which these girls were saying is something that shouldn't be allowed). Heck I would like to jog, except for physical reasons it is painful for me to do so. And blaming women for the sinning of men is wrong but that's been happening since the Garden of Eden when Adam blamed Eve for eating the fruit. That doesn't mean it is right. Also the problem with envying the Muslims for thier restrictions on female dress is that the dressing is the outcome of a society were women are inferior in every possible way. I certainly hope that the next time I am out with these girls that they do not suggest women who get raped or get pregnant out of wedlock should be killed because they shamed the family.

Also I too can concentrate on the inside more then the outside. Like the sister of one of the friends came to church and the sister had a mustache. I desperately wanted to take aside the sister and bleach her mustache, or give her a razor, or some gift certificates to a salon that specialises in hair removal. This one lady at our church had a hairstyle that made her look 10 years older. I did want to come up to her and say "that hairstyle makes you look 10 years older." But I didn't even though I wanted to and she probably would have punched me if I said that. And there is this woman who wears jeans that bisect her tummy so her tummy is hanging over her jeans like a native person. I would like to tell that woman "please don't wear jeans. Buy pants that zip up on the side." There is also a woman at our church with a haircut that makes her look like a dyke. I want to say to her: "There is a club called Diva's. Don't ever go there because you will get the wrong kind of attention. Actually don't ever go to San Francisco, because you will get the wrong kind of attention there as well." So I too can be very superficial. But I'm sure there are many other people in our church who would like to go to other people in our church and say "Stop dancing. That is inappropriate and ungodly." or "People who wear goth make-up should not be allowed in our church." And on and on it goes. But I hope to look deeper and rise above my nature.